We all bring energy with us wherever we go because we all are made up of energy. Energy radiates off us and on to our environment and other people. Every person’s energy is different. Some people radiate positive energy and some people radiate negative energy. The energy you bring depends on who you are and what is going on in your life.
Often, we are unaware of the energy we bring and the effect our energy has on others. Your energy affects others. It can make others feel good or it can make others feel anxious. How you present yourself and carry yourself with others affects how people feel about you and how they feel about themselves. It all depends on the energy you bring.
The only way to begin to understand the energy you bring is to practice self-awareness by paying attention to the things you say and how others respond when around you. The clues are there, but you have to pay close attention. When you approach someone and off load your problems onto someone, how do they take it? Do they respond kindly or do they shut down? When you approach someone and offer to help them, how do they take it? Do they accept help or do they turn you down? Paying attention to how people interact with you is a way to understand the energy you bring.
The problem I run into is some people are completely unaware of the energy they bring. How do you handle that? I know I shut down, I walk away, and I try to distant myself from that person. But what if you can’t? What if you have to engage with that person on a day-to-day basis? I don’t know. I think you have to be honest with that person about how they make you feel. I feel X, when you do Y. Some people are so unaware that they may have no idea they have any affect on you. Simply telling them how they make you feel may snap them into reality.
This brings me back to my point; you are responsible for the energy you bring. You are responsible for how your energy affects others. That does not mean you need to run around asking everyone you encounter how you affect them. You can simply pay close attention to see how others are affected by you. The clues are right in front you, all you have to do is open your eyes to them. Be responsible for yourself and what you bring to the table. Hold others accountable as well. People are doing the best they can with what they know. We cannot except people to be different without telling them the things they do that hurt us.