If you spent any time on social media yesterday you saw the outcry of “me too.” It all start with Alyssa Milano tweeting, ”If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.” Very quickly “me too” was posted all over all social media outlets by lots of women.
I have read a lot of different opinions, by women, on what this all means. Women are upset we have to even say anything because we all know. Women are upset we have to violate our privacy in order to affect some sort of change. Women are upset because what is this going to change. Women are upset about a lot of things with regards to being a woman.
It is hard to be a woman in this country right now. Yes, we have it better than women in other countries. Yes, it could be worse. But any abuse of women is unacceptable. I am not sure why we don’t take the way women are treated, in this country, seriously. I believe all we want is for the injustices against us, as women, to be taken seriously. I believe all we want is to live in a country where rape, sexual assault and harassment are not normalized. Because when it happens to you, I can promise it does not feel normal.
That is the problem, it does not feel normal. But we try to explain it away. More often than not first response out of someone’s mouth is what did you do wrong to put yourself in a situation where you feel violated. I don’t need to list the things females “do wrong” that make rape, sexual assault, or harassment our fault. This is where we get all confused because we try to place the blame somewhere. We try to minimize what has happened. Because as a country, we refuse to accept the fact that rape culture and victim blaming are real things. Everyone women knows it, but it is the other half of the country that does not seem to care.
I don’t like the idea of us against them, females against males, because males experience the same injustices females experience. I don’t like deducing an important topic into something simple. It is not as simple as “teaching men not to rape.” It is not as simple as “telling women to dress differently.” And it is sadly not as simple as saying “me too.” This topic is not simple.
We miss the point while we sit here and argue whose fault it is. The point is that no one, male or female, deserves to feel violated ever. Because that is what stays with you. The feeling of what happened; the feeling of being catcalled, the feeling of being taken advantage of, the feeling of being raped, the feeling of being harassed, etc. There is no reason for anyone to feel worthless because we all have worth. We are all enough just as we are.
And yet, when Trump took office, I remember feeling scared about how his presidency would affect women. I was wrong because us women are doing more than fine. Because this time in our country gives us is the opportunity to speak out. This time gives us an opportunity to be angry out in the open. To me, that is exactly what this whole “me too” movement is about.
So, me too, but instead of feeling sad, I choose to feel empowered. Us females are finally united and speaking out and because of that change will come. “The beauty of this moment is that we were asleep and separate, and now we are awake and united. And our collective pain can become our collective power.” Glennon Doyle