I have recently spent a lot of time wishing certain people in my life would be more vulnerable. Meanwhile, I was not being vulnerable. I am learning it is impossible to ask others to do things we do not do for ourselves.
Brené Brown defines vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. She says, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.” It is no wonder why we struggle with vulnerability when we live in a culture that thrives on certainty and no emotional exposure. But vulnerability is the path to courage, it is the path we walk to do the things we are afraid of doing. Vulnerability is walking right alongside your fears and going for what you want even though it is risky and uncertain.
I like to think I am good at being vulnerable but I am learning I am just as bad at it as the next girl. Vulnerability is the only way to get where we are going. It is a struggle to be vulnerable in some parts of your life and invulnerable in other parts. Where each person struggles with vulnerability is different. I personally struggle with vulnerability in relationships, all relationships in my life with other humans. Which means I struggle with being vulnerable in general.
What is one to do? You have to figure out what vulnerability means for you right now. For me, it is going to someone and saying all the things I need to let go of. What it means to be vulnerable changes for each of us daily. But if we keep choosing vulnerability, much like choosing love over fear, it will become our way of life.