Everyone responded so positively to my first blog post and to that I say thank you. I notice one commonality among what people were saying, “one day at a time.” I agree with this because one day at a time is the way you build a life. You do not build a life by casting huge dreams with no approaches to getting there. However, one day is a lot of time and a lot can happen in one day. I break it down even further and only do the next right thing.
Doing only the next right thing is not about doing what is “right” or what is “wrong.” It is about doing the precise thing. It is about doing what you know to be true for you right now at this very moment. Doing the next right thing is sometimes doing the hard thing like moving back across the country and sometimes it is a simpler thing like take a deep breath.
When you know what the next right thing to do is embrace it, own it and do it. It doesn’t matter how big or small or difficult or simple it is, embrace it, own it and do it. Doing only the next right thing guides you along your path. Doing only the next right thing forms the life you live. We often think it is the pivotal moments in our lives that shape our lives. Sometimes the pivotal moments aren’t the big decisions or the things we think will change us. Sometimes the pivotal moments are not the major events we believe define us. We are defined and our lives are formed by doing only the next right thing, one thing at a time.
I find doing the next right thing is easier when you do not have it all planned it out. When you have your life planned out you already know what the next right thing is because you have a plan. But I learned that is not how it works. We cannot plan our lives, at least not completely, because we can have a plan and it can change. I planned to be a lawyer, I planned to live in California permanently, then the next right thing turned out to be neither of those things. This shocked me at first and I spent a decent amount of time fighting against it because it could not be true. But fighting against it changed nothing, I knew myself well enough that I knew I had to trust the voice inside me to guide me to the next right thing. I did and here I am.
As I try to figure out what is next I am only doing so by doing the next right thing; have breakfast, go to yoga, look at jobs, do this small thing and then this other small thing. Right now, there is no big “next right thing” happening and that is okay. It is okay because it will come. The only way the big “next right thing” will come is by doing the next right thing one thing at a time, then the next and then one after that. I am embracing, owning and doing the next right thing which is taking the time now to figure out what I want to do now.